RE: Just like March Kickstart and hubby.
Posted Monday, September 13, 2010 at 3:39 PM
Pick your battles wisely.
Dear BlondRenee and Oceandog and all others who have spouses/partners who are not participating.
This has been a battle in our house from day one of our marriage. One I accepted before hand but had no clue as to hard it would be over the years. I love food and enjoy cooking, my husband is very limited in what he will eat and only wants it from a jar, can or box. All homemade is pretty much out for him.
At first (even when I ate SAD)I had my feelings hurt tremendously that he wouldn't even try what I had fixed. Eventually I just gave up and ate his way. 20 years and 50 lbs later I got strong enough to say you do your way, I'll do mine. And now I've lost 45 of those pounds and feel great.
Our battle as it turned out was only in my head. He accepted this quite well--as long as I still "cook" dinner for him. Which means opening a can and heating it. We do our own preparation and cooking for breakfast and lunch and then I "cook" for him what he'll eat and I cook what I'll eat and we eat together.
I think however, that someone who wants real homemade SAD meals would be harder to compromise with. In my case it seems to be working so far.
Keep vegan. You are doing something good for yourself. I'd like to be able to say that when your spouse sees you eating so well they will be tempted to try but sometimes it just doesn't work out that way.
I will say my husband is so very proud of what I've accomplished and has started walking and going to the Y with me so somethings are rubbing off.