Forums: March 2010 Kickstart Forum Archive: You're Better Than That
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acgnyc Joined: 02/27/10 Posts: 8	You're Better Than That Posted Wednesday, March 3, 2010 at 5:31 PM I remember when I was a dating a UFC fighter and I was adding Coffee Mate to my coffee and he said "Stop. You're better than that". I was a little perturbed and said "What do you mean?" and he said, "You're smarter than that. You are worth making a better choice of food". I was a little ticked off, but then he explained the ingredients and I realized that if I am going to live a healthier life, I had better give myself the time of day and check the ingredients of what I am digesting. I am no way near perfect in anything, I am always learning. Today, I have a wonderful fiancé, we are both chubby, BUT we are both working hard to get healthier so we can live a long, happy life together. As a former student of International Relations who was profoundly touched by the United Nations Universal Declaration of Human Rights (http://www.un.org/en/documents/udhr/), I know everyone on this planet was born with the right to pursue happiness and a healthy, good life. I too, have a responsibility to myself to treat my body with love and respect and to pursue a life of good health - "to be better than that"... I don’t always do, but today, for now, just this very moment…I will. ======= SIDE NOTE======== Ladies, let me set the record straight after reading the comments. I am a tough cookie and my former boyfriend knew it and loved that about me. No one bosses me around, especially not a guy. By the way he loves PLUS SIZE women -till this day (yes ladies they are coming out of the closet and love our curves). It was just his personal preference. Now, about the comment "You're better than that"... My ex was not only my lover and friend but my boxing trainer as well. We had a relationship of brutal honesty where we pushed each others limits of digging in your soul. Just when either if us thought we couldn't do that final lap around the track, or last that final 5 seconds punching the heavy bag, we pushed each other "to be better than that" . His comment was out of love and care -bringing out the best in each other., even when we don’t like to face the facts. Today, we are still friends and we are both proud of the strides we have made in our lives. I use it as an affirmation when I try to DIG IN to that place inside I don't want to go.
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serenevannoy Joined: 12/28/09 Location: Oakland, CA Posts: 294	RE: You're Better Than That Posted Wednesday, March 3, 2010 at 5:35 PM I have to say that if someone pulled that patronizing crap on me, I wouldn't be dating them much longer. I don't respond well to shaming and condescension. Not well at all. Serene Vannoy, Oakland, CA -- My daily Kickstart blog: http://serenecooking.livejournal.com/tag/kickstart
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txgirl Joined: 01/04/10 Location: Pasadena, TX Posts: 82	RE: You're Better Than That Posted Wednesday, March 3, 2010 at 5:50 PM lol @ Serene! By the time I got to the bottom of acgnyc's post I had already started imagining myself pulling that patronizing crap on someone! I can just hear myself now - and almost everyone in Texas is a perfect candidate. Tina
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acgnyc Joined: 02/27/10 Posts: 8	RE: You're Better Than That Posted Wednesday, March 3, 2010 at 5:54 PM We are still good friends and I was in boxing training at the time with him. So, as much as I didn’t like the advice at the time, it was good advice. Making change in your life is not easy. I don't like to hear that I CAN'T or SHOULDN'T eat something. Today, however, I would rather face the realities of my choices and be knowledgeable than to live in the land of the living dead -- in denial. Now, I am happy when people share their knowledge with me and I am made aware of what might be detrimental to my health. Of course, when I come across intolerance, I simply keep it simple and recognize that everyone has an opinion. Plus, like the one comment below--I think it's a really positive affirmation.
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serenevannoy Joined: 12/28/09 Location: Oakland, CA Posts: 294	RE: You're Better Than That Posted Wednesday, March 3, 2010 at 5:58 PM I've been a vegetarian most of my life, and I have never, not ONCE, had someone say to me, "You know, you criticized me for eating meat and that really changed my mind." Contrariwise, I've lost count of the many, many people who have shared with me that my loving acceptance of them where they are has made them give vegetarianism a look, or a try, or has actually turned them vegan. So I'll go with loving acceptance over lecturing any day. Serene Vannoy, Oakland, CA -- My daily Kickstart blog: http://serenecooking.livejournal.com/tag/kickstart
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Wild4Stars Joined: 12/27/09 Location: Florida Posts: 832	RE: You're Better Than That Posted Wednesday, March 3, 2010 at 8:26 PM It might land a little abrasive coming from someone else, but I love, love, LOVE it for an affirmation for myself! "You're better than that." I can see me reaching for some white pasta and saying to myself, "You're better than that." THANKS for this post ! Vikki ~ Wild4Stars@gmail.com
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Carolat Joined: 03/03/10 Location: Silicon Valley, California Posts: 11	RE: You're Better Than That Posted Thursday, March 4, 2010 at 1:17 AM Powdered Coffee Mate is flammable. When I was young(er), we'd sprinkle it on a candle flame and watch it flare up. I haven't consumed any since. And yeah, everyone is *better than that*. It's not an exclusive club to eat well.
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Carolat Joined: 03/03/10 Location: Silicon Valley, California Posts: 11	RE: You're Better Than That Posted Thursday, March 4, 2010 at 1:20 AM Serene, you made your own injera? How difficult was that?
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Mariberry Joined: 01/02/10 Posts: 297	RE: You're Better Than That Posted Thursday, March 4, 2010 at 11:48 AM It's interesting to read the various "feelings" about what the UFC fighter said. To me, it didn't come across as condescending at all. He cared enough to share what he knew about coffee whitening crapola (which I also used up til Jan. 2010 because it's what we have at work). As they were dating he clearly felt safe enough to share what he knew and that he felt she was smart enough to handle the truth. All we are saying is "Give Peas a Chance"
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acgnyc Joined: 02/27/10 Posts: 8	My Battle in the Octagon Posted Thursday, March 4, 2010 at 12:44 PM I was just about to skip lunch. Had no time, got lazy -oh yes, I have tons of excuses, I always do... for a moment I thought "one less meal is a good idea"...NOT! Ok, now I have to talk out loud - If I don't take the time to prepare something for myself, what does that say about me? I am willing to take the call of a friend who needs an ear so she can vent, I gladly take the time to help a neighbor with moving her furniture (sometimes I think I am Hercules), I'll make sure everything is A-O.K. with everyone else but when it comes to me... and especially my health, I have every excuse to not take care of myself. (I know, not good...but, easier said than done). So, I prepared lunch. As I was cooking, I said "I'm better than that". I have to treat myself with the same dignity and attention I gladly give others. I have gotten better throughout the years - I had to, I finally got Diabetes Type II from my poor diet and lifestyle. Today, I know I have to take my medicine and I can't skip a meal (boy do I get cranky when my sugar is low). Till this day, I use the affirmation "I'm better than that" to remind myself I matter enough to cook, to choose the right foods, and to take the time to nurture my mind, body and soul. My UFC fighter friend went into the octagon cage to fight other fighters --the battle I face everyday in my Octagon is trying to make the right choices to live a healthier life. This 21 Day Kick Start just made my fighter's cage a greener place.
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TexGal Joined: 02/25/10 Location: Texas Posts: 111	RE: You're Better Than That Posted Thursday, March 4, 2010 at 1:00 PM Mariberry wrote: It's interesting to read the various "feelings" about what the UFC fighter said. To me, it didn't come across as condescending at all. He cared enough to share what he knew about coffee whitening crapola (which I also used up til Jan. 2010 because it's what we have at work). As they were dating he clearly felt safe enough to share what he knew and that he felt she was smart enough to handle the truth. I felt exactly the same way about that post, but based on some of the other responses I thought maybe I missed something. It seemed like a sensitive and caring comment to me ... but I guess it all depends on how it was delivered and whether the intent was to lift up or put down. Probably something we all need to think about as we try to share our new healthier eating habits with others ... we can show care and concern for their health, but try not to come across as critical, superior, and condescending.
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Carolat Joined: 03/03/10 Location: Silicon Valley, California Posts: 11	RE: You're Better Than That Posted Thursday, March 4, 2010 at 3:53 PM It's a good mantra.
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